When our fellowship was founded, its members voted to adopt all Conference-approved Alcoholics Anonymous literature as approved SPAA literature. Today, our primary texts are the Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book), Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, and Living Sober. These books provide the foundation of our program and continue to guide our recovery.
At the same time, our fellowship is writing its own literature from the ground up. We draw on the experience, strength, and hope shared by our members in meetings, outreach calls, fellowship, and everyday recovery. As we discover what needs to be written, and what is helping us grow and stay sober, we write those inspired ideas in SPAA literature to help others on the same path.
As new SPAA literature is written and approved by the SPAA Intergroup, it will be added here for the fellowship to use.
The group’s success depends on sticking to our singleness of purpose—our shared sobriety definition and edging concept. It’s important to keep that focus during our meetings, decisions, and recovery. We suggest reading only from SPAA-approved and AA literature. We avoid injecting opinions from religion, therapy, politics, institutions or outside groups, staying true to the principles… more
SPAA defines sobriety as: No sex with one’s self (masturbation), no sex outside of a committed relationship and no viewing of pornography. Our experience has shown us that certain behaviors—though outside SPAA’s sobriety definition—can still give us a “hit” of our drug and often lead to the loss of our sobriety. We call these behaviors “edging.”… more
I have been asked by the SPAA community to provide my reflections on the nature of compulsive, addictive use of sex, pornography, masturbation, and sexual fantasy (henceforward referred to simply as “sex”). As a physician and a psychiatrist who has spent the last two decades treating and researching patients with addiction, I… more
I have been asked by the SPAA community to provide my reflections on the nature of compulsive, addictive use of sex, pornography, masturbation, and sexual fantasy (henceforward referred to simply as “sex”). As a physician and a psychiatrist who has spent the last two decades treating and researching patients with addiction, I… more
It’s said that the number one offender for alcoholics is resentment. We believe the number one offender for sex and porn addicts is shame. You’re scrubbing your browser history when you hear the doorknob turn. Your heart jumps into your mouth and you quickly close your browser window as the door swings open.… more
Am I a Sex and Porn Addict? Have you found yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts? Have you spent too much time online for sexual purposes? Hidden some of your sexual behaviors from others? Attempted to stop sexual activities, such as viewing pornography, and failed?… more
In sobriety, the idea of dating can be both thrilling and terrifying, with many challenges and questions. We may wonder: How sober do I need to be to date? When is it ok to get closer or hold hands? As sex and porn addicts, we can apply the same spiritual principles to dating… more
An expression commonly heard in SPAA: “If you don’t edge, you won’t act out.” AA members have a saying that’s just as true for many of us Sex and Porn Addicts: “If you hang around the barbershop long enough, sooner or later, you’re going to get your hair cut.” Many of us tell ourselves that… more
“This sucks,” we’ve often said. For many of us, those were the most frequently used words in our vocabulary. We were the doomed glass-half-empty, sky-is-falling, no-good-will-come-of-this kind of people. We always expected the car to break down, the roof to leak, the benign… more
We get by with a little help from our friends, as the song goes. We tried to stop sexually acting out on our own. We told ourselves we could pull ourselves up from our bootstraps, but—spoiler alert—we didn’t have much luck. We’re not ashamed… more
It has been said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” No one achieves recovery in a single leap, but rather many tiny steps. Daily habits, in other words. Good habits are the foundation of strong recovery. Bad habits, on the other hand, are like termites, threatening to devour the entire house a nibble at a time. … more
“That’s it, I’m done!” we said, sometimes only minutes after sexually acting out. We lowered our heads in shame and vowed with tears in our eyes—never again. We often repeated this vow to our partners. Our days of watching porn and acting out were over. Yet after… more
Today, we’re lucky to have a newcomer(s) joining us. Welcome! There’s nothing you need to do. You’ll have a chance to share during our meeting if you choose to, but no pressure. Now, we’ll share with you a little about how we got here. None of us thought: My life is perfect,… more